Friday, July 23, 2010

Greetings from Atlantic City


Yesterday was a beautiful day so my family and I left for the beach. We frequently go to Atlantic City throughout the spring and summer to enjoy the beach. I don't gamble, but I enjoy walking through Caesar's Palace. Out of all the hotel/casinos I definitely prefer Caesars. I would love to see what the Caesar's Palace in Las Vegas looks like.

Unfortunately the one time I decide to take pictures in Caesars they are going to have some Food Network event. There were posters throughout the lobby of the big FN stars. And they put a frying pan on Caesar's statue.



The beach was wonderful. It wasn't too hot and the wind was blowing. I opted to wear normal clothes because I planned to play in the ocean. The only issue was the sand. It was so hot it burned the soles of my feet! I had to put my wedge heels on to walk to the water. Walking in heels on the sand was interesting.


I hope everyone is enjoying their summer.

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Second year anniversary!

I cannot believe Princessly Living is two years old today! When I started this blog I never thought I would still be doing this two years from then. I thank every one of my viewers for that. Thank you for visiting blog and for continuing to visit. Thank you for leaving comments and emails. And of course putting up with my experimental topic posts. This has been a fun two years. I plan to continue writing this blog for a long time and hope you will continue on the journey with me.

Last year I was set on trying a few new things and took your opinions into account afterward. So this year I am asking you, my viewers, what would you like to see. Be it more posting frequency, more articles, daily life posts, giveaways, or crafts.

A few posts I have already planned include:
~A deco project
~Some sweet finds
~Possible teashop located

Thank you again for reading my blog!❤

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Thursday, July 15, 2010

Live, Love, Laugh, and Dance

There's no such thing as an ugly woman. There are only those who have not realized their full potential.
            --Arlene Dahl

Recently I received a lovely e-mail from a plus sized newer lolita. She has admired the lolita fashion from many years, but has only gained the confidence to wear lolita in the past few months. She told me that she fears negative comments from other girls about her size and has only ever attended one meet-up. This girl touched my heart. She really loves lolita fashion, but is afraid to wear it because of negative criticism.

So many forums and community which are meant to encourage and connect us are being used to intimidate newer members and dispirit those that do not fit into the mold of popular lolita standards. Rather than helping each other become the best lolitas we can be, we spend our time damaging each other's self esteem and ego. Constructive criticisms are negative or the commenter will say nothing to help and then leave a nasty comment on another website.

Questions such as "Can X-sized/skinned girls be a lolita?" or "Can a boy be a lolita?" are in my opinion futile. Fashion is an interactive art form. A way to express yourself and your interests. No one asks others if they are qualified to paint paintings, make sculptures, or play video games, and take up golf. It should not matter what others think as long as you are enjoying your life. If you want to wear lolita, do so. No matter your size, color, or gender there are no reasons you should allow others to damper you spirits and make you afraid to express yourself.

Usually the whole size issue starts a heated debate with redundant and bitter comments. The 'Real women have curves' argument is moronic. Women come in all shapes and sizes. Exclaiming this phrase in the middle of a weight/size debate just makes the commenter a sizist themself. Twiggy is as much a woman as Mia Tyler. And Natalie Laughlin is not more of a woman than Miranda Kerr. Plus sized lolitas aren't disgusting. Queen latifah is not disgusting. Nor are Kathy Najimy, Christina Schmidt, or Mae West. We have to be selective with the styles we chose to wear and have to spend more time on our outfit, hair, and make-up, but we can still look cute. Most brand items might not fit us, but there are plenty of other options such as offbrand items, replicas, and custom tailored items. Know when attending meet-ups that you will be outshone but petite lolitas. But that should not prevent you from going or being afraid to go.

One way to combat negative stigma is by boosting your self-esteem. Shows such as What Not To Wear and How to Look Good Naked can give you a self-esteem boot and give clothing tips. The more you believe in yourself the less other people's negative opinions will affect you. Another issue to watch out is self hatred. Listening to enough negative comments one starts to believe what is said and begins to think up more negative comments about himself or herself. You need to be beautiful on the inside as well as the outside. And if you are still worried about weight start exercising and eating healthy. This will make you feel good and you will lose weight as well.

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Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Wish upon a wish

Like many of the lifestyle lolitas I love wishes. I wish upon a star, make a wish as I blow out birthday candles, make a wish when I blow the seeds off a dandelions, and wish while throwing a handful of pennies into a wishing well.

My grandmother always told me that someone only grows old when they give up on wishes and dreams. Even when I was little I was determined to never grow old. I grew up in household which believed if you make positive and clear wishes you will get what you asked for. Another piece of wisdom from my grandmother was to always keep a wish box.

I have had a wish box since I was a child. I found this pretty container in a thrift store when I was about seven. I write my wishes down on decorative paper, fold them up, and store them in my wish box. Whenever I have a new wish I write it down and add it to my container. Once ever six months or so I read through all my wishes so see if any have come true. I have kept some of my old wishes still in my container just because they are adorable. Some of the wishes in my box are for other people as well.

You should always keep your wishes and dreams alive. I have a friend that keeps a wish journal. Every line is a wish and as they come true she crosses them off. I think a wish box is cuter though.

I had a pleasant surprise not long ago. I recently bought and watched a Taiwanese drama called Fated to Love You. The main character, Xin Yi, also keeps a wish box! She used post-its though. I was really surprised to see one of my family traditions in an Asian drama!