Friday, May 24, 2013

Current trends: Pearl chokers

I finally decided to try a new post series, my current trends. These will be picture oriented posts that focus on one accessory, article of clothing, or style that I am currently captivated by. I felt like sharing a little more of my interests as well as keeping a log of my different fancies.

For my first post, I am concentrating on pearl chokers. While I find necklaces beautiful and own quite a few pendants, they hold no comparison to a band of pearls resting at the base of the neck. Pearls are so feminine and I find pearl chokers simply elegant and regal.

At first, I never thought to wear pearls with lolita until I became more involved in classical and hime lolita. Then with the discovery of himegyaru, I knew I needed a pearl choker. Others can have the cute cupcakes, bows, and melting chocolate, but pearls are a necessity for me.



Non-brand chokers

Top center: Gracie Jewellery
Bottom left: We❤it
Bottom right: Art Fire

Thursday, May 2, 2013

May Challenge

"Never let anyone steal your joy. Life is too precious to waste time on negative people."
--Nishan Panwar
I felt like working on a different sort of challenge this month. Normally my challenges have to deal with improving myself in some way. But this month, I decided that I am going to work on external issues that are starting to arise. No names will be mentioned in this blog post. I will not give them the satisfaction of an audience. I just want these negative people to know that I am putting my foot down and that the rumors are no longer acceptable.

Very few people can go through life without the sneers or critiques of negative people. They hide in the shadows waiting for something good to happen or for others to express themselves and then they try to tarnish the moment. They are looking for any opportunity to start drama just to make others feel horrible so they can ignore the problems in their own lives.

Usually I just ignore this type of person. I went through school with very few friends because I would cut ties when I noticed the negativity. By negativity I do not mean jealousy. Everyone is slightly jealous of something. I mean the type of people that start rumors or physically tries to ruin someone else's happiness. I dislike being associated with those kind of people.

Firstly, I am very happy to share most of my life on my blog. But there are some things I feel that should remain private. It does not make me any less of a lifestyle blogger. I feel that I am proving myself as a trustworthy friend or family member because I do not feel the need to share everything with the world. I believe that this blog should focus primarily on my opinions and style and not on the happenings of others. When and if I feel like sharing something, I will. For example I debated for a long time if I should have written about my Nanny's passing. She was a very important part in my life and she loved the idea of my blog so I shared. As people that have nothing to do with my personal life, there is no need to start rumors when you are not and will not be involved.

Secondly, I am ready for any obese comments that anyone is thinking about posting because of my weekend out with Tama. Yes, I have gained a large amount of weight. There is no shock or astonishment in calling me fat. I am well aware that I am massive. I have been large since I was 12 years old. I am an emotional eater and with life falling away since last July it is no surprise I have gotten larger. Am I happy with my weight? No. Am I working on correcting this? Yes. For the past 2 weeks I have been actually focusing on losing weight. And while losing 5lbs is not much, I am pleased. I am not losing weight to quickly becoming skinny to fit into brand. I am taking it slow and working on becoming healthier. And to show I am not horribly ashamed here are 2 pictures. I refuse to hide myself away now that I am finally feeling happier, wanting to dress up, and go out.

Even if negative people want to deny it, I know exactly what they are. And I just want to let them know that I am not intimated by them. Life is starting to get better once again and their negativity is not needed. Maybe if they were not so focused on other people they could find happiness too.

image from: Jokeroo