Thursday, May 2, 2013

May Challenge

"Never let anyone steal your joy. Life is too precious to waste time on negative people."
--Nishan Panwar
I felt like working on a different sort of challenge this month. Normally my challenges have to deal with improving myself in some way. But this month, I decided that I am going to work on external issues that are starting to arise. No names will be mentioned in this blog post. I will not give them the satisfaction of an audience. I just want these negative people to know that I am putting my foot down and that the rumors are no longer acceptable.

Very few people can go through life without the sneers or critiques of negative people. They hide in the shadows waiting for something good to happen or for others to express themselves and then they try to tarnish the moment. They are looking for any opportunity to start drama just to make others feel horrible so they can ignore the problems in their own lives.

Usually I just ignore this type of person. I went through school with very few friends because I would cut ties when I noticed the negativity. By negativity I do not mean jealousy. Everyone is slightly jealous of something. I mean the type of people that start rumors or physically tries to ruin someone else's happiness. I dislike being associated with those kind of people.

Firstly, I am very happy to share most of my life on my blog. But there are some things I feel that should remain private. It does not make me any less of a lifestyle blogger. I feel that I am proving myself as a trustworthy friend or family member because I do not feel the need to share everything with the world. I believe that this blog should focus primarily on my opinions and style and not on the happenings of others. When and if I feel like sharing something, I will. For example I debated for a long time if I should have written about my Nanny's passing. She was a very important part in my life and she loved the idea of my blog so I shared. As people that have nothing to do with my personal life, there is no need to start rumors when you are not and will not be involved.

Secondly, I am ready for any obese comments that anyone is thinking about posting because of my weekend out with Tama. Yes, I have gained a large amount of weight. There is no shock or astonishment in calling me fat. I am well aware that I am massive. I have been large since I was 12 years old. I am an emotional eater and with life falling away since last July it is no surprise I have gotten larger. Am I happy with my weight? No. Am I working on correcting this? Yes. For the past 2 weeks I have been actually focusing on losing weight. And while losing 5lbs is not much, I am pleased. I am not losing weight to quickly becoming skinny to fit into brand. I am taking it slow and working on becoming healthier. And to show I am not horribly ashamed here are 2 pictures. I refuse to hide myself away now that I am finally feeling happier, wanting to dress up, and go out.

Even if negative people want to deny it, I know exactly what they are. And I just want to let them know that I am not intimated by them. Life is starting to get better once again and their negativity is not needed. Maybe if they were not so focused on other people they could find happiness too.

image from: Jokeroo


Anne said...

You look lovely, and you and your friend are adorable together!

Best of luck with the weight loss efforts! I'm a research scientist in metabolism/metabolic disease and if I started listing all the ways in which losing weight (when overweight) is good for you, I'd be typing all day. Losing weight when overweight can have almost as dramatic effects on improving your health as quitting smoking for smokers... and both can be very challenging, but it is so satisfying and so good for you when you succeed. :)

(I never struggled with my weight, but I tried to quit smoking at least a hundred times from when I started in my teens until finally quitting at 24 about a year ago. Being a smoker in a cardiology lab was so embarrassing and shameful, could only have been worse if I studied cancer...)

5 pounds is great progress, so good for you!

Anonymous said...

I've followed your blog for about 3 years now, and I've never seen a personal picture of you until now.

You're really pretty.
Aside from those, I'm glad to see more monthly challenges (you inspired me to do my own, on blog and off!), and one that you feel strongly about. :)

Lynette said...

This is an excellent attitude to have. Unfortunate as it is, sometimes people are just petty and cruel. Ignoring them doesn't always work and it is necessary to stand up for yourself.

Good luck with your journey to better health! It is so important, as Anne said. Especially since there is such a connection between the health of your body and the health of your mind.

hellokitt9 said...

I personally think you and your friend look lovely in your photos.I think you have very nice friends and don't need to worry about what the worthless think of you. I hope your new diet works out for you and you can get your life back in order.

AngelShinigami said...

Wow! I've never seen a picture of you before. You are so beautiful!!

If you are looking for a fun way to loose weight that can be done when you want, no pressure type thing. I recommend 'Blogilaties'. Cassie has great energy and a full range of beginning videos.

My favorite is the 'Bubble Butt' video. It's simple and easy to do when I watch t.v. at night before bed. It has two moves to it.

nishan said...

Thank you !!