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Wednesday, December 5, 2018

Adieu






Recently I've done some soul searching regarding blogger. While I love sharing my thoughts and researching ideas, writing lengthy posts is my least favorite task. Spending hours researching, writing, and proofreading has impacted my family time more than I original expected. I started this blog as a single, college student. I am unable to dedicated the same love and attention to this as I once did. I would rather color with my 3 year old and snuggling my 1 year old than sit in front of a laptop furiously typing away. My family is the most important thing to me. And by the end of the day, I just want to enjoy a cup of tea and relax.

So I will not be continuing Princessly Living in this form anymore. I will continue to make short posts on Instagram. But I all closing this chapter on my life currently. Not for reasons of lacking motivation or losing my purpose like before. This time I am leaving this form of blogging because when these precious early years are gone I will never get them back. I could never forgive myself if I missed anything because I let my hobby get in the way.

Goodbye for now. Maybe one day I will return to blogger, but for now farewell.

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Monday, December 3, 2018

'Tis the season for holiday cards


I am sorry for being horribly delinquent again. This is such a busy time of year. However it's the wonderful time of year for Christmas cards! Call me old fashion, but I love sending Christmas cards to family and friends. Unfortunately in the past years with babies and moving, we have been lax with sending them out. Thankfully, this year we are in a good position to start again.

Card etiquette can be confusing and stressful. While I am not Ms. Manners, below are some of the tips I follow.

Keep a list
 • Everyone should have a correspondence list. I unfortunately lost mine, so I have to spend extra time this year collecting the information again. Our list includes family, friends, close coworkers, and anyone we have received cards from before. I also include our service workers and teachers.

Timing is everything
 • While the saying "Better late then never" can apply to many things, late holiday cards are most unfestive. I find it best to send cards 2-3 weeks before Christmas. I have even seen many etiquette guidelines say to send cards no later than the first full week in December.

eCards
 • I prefer to send old fashion mailed card. I know a lot of people have switched to electronic cards. I find this rather impersonal. I see the art of hand writing a personal message and addressing a paper card as an act of generosity. I love to receive cards that someone took time out of their day to prepare.

What to write
 • No matter the occasion, cards should always include at least a sentence or two and a signature. Your      recipients want to read what you have to say, not just what the card makers thought. I try to pick cards with a nice message, but a hand written message is also a must.

The envelope
 • Cards should be placed in the envelope facing the back. Then when the recipient opens the envelope they see the front of your card. I also like to write a small message such as Have a Very Merry Holiday or Have a Shining New Year on the inside flap. And please, no name stamps! While they may be a time saver and have a cute image. Please write your return address. They look out of place and gaudy with nice hand writing.

Naming format
 • Finally now to address and sign the cards.  When possible I prefer to address cards to the whole family. I only include individual last names if we are only acquaintance or if that is the person's preference.

The Smith Family
Dad, Mom, Children - oldest to youngest

Unmarried couples
My friend and significant other


Sending Holiday cards does not have to be stressful. Plus if you are writing cards then why not buy accessories?

 
A wonderful touch to letters is the traditional sealing wax. The stamps can be customized for the season, monogram, or family crest. Seal wax: Etsy
Stencils can be very useful to keep addresses and messages straight and equal size. Stencil: Amazon


And finally since you are going to writing quite a lot, why not have a beautiful and comfortable pen? I love customized pens. Fountain pen: Amazon

mage from: pexels

Sunday, November 25, 2018

9 End of Year To Dos


It is amazing that there is only one month left in 2018. It seems that it was September only recently. But as my family sets up our Christmas decorations and we buy new calendars, I have to accept that this year is coming to an end. 2018 was a good year. I celebrated 13 years together and 5 years of marriage with Brad. We had several family trips. I tried several delicious recipes. And I lost 37lbs.

I have such plans for 2019. My eldest son will have his first day of school. We will make more improvements to our home. And I will continue to develop my blog and Instagram. I enjoy finishing tasks and planning long term goals so l tend to start New Year's Resolutions early.

The end or beginning of a year starts people in a frenzy to better themselves. Buying gym memberships, starting diets, and creating to do lists. Below are my top end of the year To Dos.

1. Declutter
 • It can be hard to concentrate and start over new when weighed down by the clutter of old. Decluttering allows for you to start over fresh.

2. Prepare goals for next year
 • Planning long term goals allows me to work toward my future. I know what I want to accomplish next year and by when. Preparing goals ahead also saves me time trying to remember what I need to work on after completing previous goals.

3. Select holiday card/gifts
 • I love selecting our holiday card and gifts. I love showing friends and family how much I appreciate them. And I also enjoy preparing something for our neighbors, postal worker, and sanitation workers.

4. Set-up for any important appointments
 • Schedule any important meetings and doctor's appointments before you get too busy and forget. December and January are always a whirlwind for me. Between family events, holiday parties, and preparing for the holidays. Your schedule and other people's schedules are too busy to plan something last minute.

5. Complete any past year's goals
 • While preparing for next year, do not forget there is still time left in this year. Complete whatever tasks you were already working on. See if there are any last goals that could be complete before Auld Lang Syne starts playing.

6. Volunteer/do something good
 • It is always best to be charitable and kind to others. It is especially good to be charitable around this time of year. It can be difficult for some during the holidays.

7. Do something you love
 • The end and beginning of a year can be busy and chaotic. Remember to make time to do something you love. Holiday burnout is a waste of a wonderful time of year. Make time in your busy schedule to relax and pamper yourself.

8. Get rid of bad habit
 • The end of the year is an excellent time to rid yourself of old habits. it is difficult to improve oneself if one holds onto old horrible habits.

9. Re-evaluate old projects
 • And finally the end if the year is also an excellent time to re-evaluated projects that are incomplete. If you find the task not important or meaningless, it might be best to drop the project and work on something else.

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Sunday, November 18, 2018

10 must for a princessly lifestyle

I love the princessy lifestyle. The femininity, the etiquette, and the pampering. It has been an infatuation of mine ever since 2003 when I first discovered lolita fashion. I appreciate and love myself more when following this aesthetic. I am happier and take better care of myself as well.

As a child I believed only pretty, petite girls could follow this lifestyle and I was neither. Until my freshman year in high school I was the tallest person in my grade. At graduation I was still among one of the tallest girls. I had always been a heavy set child as well. I was a tomboy because that was the style I thought I could follow.


However as I grew in confidence thanks to old and new friends, I decided to follow my dream. I was not going to let my height or weight dictate my interests. I was going to dress the way I wanted. And I was going to follow my interests. I am so much happier that I did.


Over the years I found 10 must haves to follow a princessy lifestyle.


1. Take care of skin and nails

 • Having nice skin and nails is a must. Find a moisturizer that works for your skin type and the season. Take vitamins contain vitamin A and biotin to promote healthy skin, hair, and nails. Always keep your nails clean and make sure there are no chips in your nail polish. Try not to pick at your skin.

2. Prefect their smile.

 • Having a nice smile is important not only for appearance, but also for health. Visit the dentist as directed. Brush your teeth twice daily. Cut down on teeth staining beverages. Work on perfecting a smile that works well with the shape of your face.

3. Find a signature hairstyle

 • Having a signature hairstyle is stylish and a time saver. I know how I plan to wear my hair 90% of the time. And I always receive amazing compliments when I style my hair another way.

4. Learn how to speak publicly

 • One should always be confident and prepared for public speaking. Be it a meeting or an important phone call, one should always be able to speak calmly and clearly.

5. Eat healthy and exercise

 • Nothing is more important than your health. Healthy people tend to be happy and look their best. They glow and have more energy. Plus losing weight allows for greater clothing choices.

6. Read daily

 • Successful and intelligent people read daily. Not just the news or fiction. They are on a mission to learn something new daily. I love to start my mornings by studying different languages.

7. Mind your manners

 • Nothing ruins to princessly aesthetic faster than horrible manners. A meaningful please and thank you can go a long way. One should be patient and a good listener. Always be punctual and RSVP promptly. And do not make a promise you cannot keep. When someone speaks give them your full attention.

8. Be charitable

 • Almost everyone has a cause they are passionate about. Donate, provide your time, or help someone else in need. If one is able to give one should.

9. Diversify interests and hobby

 • Successful and wealthy people tend to have a wide variety of interests and hobbies. They have an expansive list of topics to discuss when meeting new people. It also allows for greater networking possibilities.

10. Take pride in appearance

 • Dress for your body shape. Get rid of old, torn, and worn out clothes. One should always dress nicely for any occasion.


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Monday, November 12, 2018

Part two: Healthy eating


In addition to losing weight, eating for your body is crucial. Nothing matters if one does not have good health. Eating unhealthy can cause weight gain and malnourishment. The human body cannot functional properly if it is not taken care of properly. In addition to the main food groups and portion control, you have to eat what works for your body. One size fits all diet regimens do not work for everyone. The diet may not produce results or if there are results the participate feels horrible. One needs to know what foods or restrictions work for their body.
I have Celiac disease, an autoimmune disorder that causes me several issues if I eat anything that contains wheat, rye, or barley. I even have to be careful of food with certain seasonings or have modified food starch. This can sometimes make eating a game of Russian Roulette.
While gluten free has become a new weightloss fad, it is frustrating to not be taken seriously when asking if something is gluten free. This is not a choice or luxury diet for me. Symptoms of migraines, joint pain, digestive issues, fatigue, acne, and dermatitis herpetiformis cannot be ignored. I would jump for joy if I could eat normal bread, desserts, or pasta. Although I am thankful that since gluten free diets have become popular most foods are clearly marked if they contain wheat. And there are more gluten free options than when I was younger.
One should never judge or disregard others if they say they have a dietary restriction.  Nothing is more vital than your health. My littles experience Celiac symptoms as well. I know that others will think of me as the annoying food police mother. But this is important. I want myself and my family to be the heathiest we can be. 

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Sunday, November 4, 2018

Keil Tree Experts


Unpaid review

It has been over a year since Brad and I bought our first house. While not ideal, I do not completely hate the purchase. I wanted a single family home in the suburbs. But due to limited house choices during the winter, we bought a townhouse at the edge of the city.

This is definitely not my dream house, but there are a few positives. The house is in a nice neighborhood. There are plenty of storage areas, bedrooms, and restrooms for my family. The house is the corner property with a sufficient amount of land. Because if it I was going to live in a townhouse I was only going to accept a corner property. We are a 20 minute drive away from work and any stores I might need. Plus we were able to purchase the house for cheap and the value has almost increased by half. The neighborhood school is not the highest ranking, but there are alternative options such private and charter schools.

All in all I do not love my house, but I like it well enough. So after unpacking and surviving our youngest's first year, we are finally ready for customizations. I have several projects planned that should hopefully increase my enthusiasm toward my home. We started with a mix of small and large projects. Corner shelves in the dining room, above door shelves in the restrooms, and tree removal.

There were two very large Ash trees in the front yard that were blighted by Emerald Ash Borer beetles. They were not pleasing to look at. No foliage on the top half of the trees, bark peeling, and falling limbs. Plus any damages caused by these dying trees would not be covered by me home owner's insurance!  They had to go. This was also the first major project that needed to be completed before the other exterior projects could be started.

I contacted several arbor companies for quotes, but decided to go with a family recommendation, Keil Tree Experts.  The company was booked out two weeks, which was understandable due to the recent rain and wind storms. I had seen several felled trees this summer. Keil Tree Experts were nice enough to schedule me for 2 days so that the crew would not have to be rushed. It turned out that my scheduled date was unfortunately right before the remanence of Hurricane Florence was due to hit Maryland. I called the morning of my appointment to see if I needed to be rescheduled. But they were already on the way. The crew worked a full 9 hours, no loitering breaks, and were able to cut down both trees in only one day. They left the wood as requested for firewood.

It feels like I bought a new house. My yard feels and looks more open. And my property looks better without the huge looming death traps. When the storm hit that weekend I did not have any worries. Now my next planned projects include repainting the exterior doors and porch, updating the carport and pathway, adding a HVAC system, and add a new fence. Eventually I would love to add a deck and a library addition. All in due time.



Before image from: Google

Monday, October 29, 2018

Hello, my name is Mommy.

Since my long hiatus, I have had 2 adorable little boys. A hilarious 3 year old and a snuggly 1 year old. Those two are my sun and moon. I cannot express how much I love those two and could not image life without them. I feel so privileged to have my two little guys call me Mommy. For 3 years they were my sole reason for living. All of my walking moments were focused on those two. ...I no longer mattered.

I lost myself. I was no longer Kristen, only Mommy. I had no interests, hobbies, or will to do things I once liked.  I did not see friends. I did not watch shows that I used to like. I did not touch a game or read a book. My clothing choices were whatever was clean. I no longer straightened my hair. I worried about how well others were eating, but I did not eat properly. If I was not with my boys, I was working or sleeping. I did not want to bother others with watching them, so I rarely got away for me time or a date night. While I was aware that my life would change after the birth of my babies, nothing could prepare me for how much. I neglected myself. I let myself fall to the lowest priority.

I cannot say when was the exact moment I came to my senses. But I feel like I woke up from a dream I had no control over. This is not to say that I have regrets about having my children. Certainly not! I have regrets about  how little valued my well-being. If I were able to do it all over I would change the way I treated myself. I would make sure that I was happy with myself. A happy mother makes for happier children, which makes for a happier home.

So I have made a promise to never lose myself again. I can be a mother and be myself at the same time. It will take work, but my happiness and well-being are important. I will wake up early for me time. I will be more accepting of help from others. I will not feel horrible about taking time to enjoy a quiet dinner and movie with my loving husband. I will read and take walks during my lunch breaks. And manage to stay awake once the babies are asleep to watch a show or movies with my husband. I will no longer be just Mommy. I am my own person. My name is Kristen, and I am the mother of two charming little men. I am not my first priority, but I will certainly no longer be my last.


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Tuesday, October 23, 2018

Decluttering


Oh my gosh! I just noticed that I saved this post on Saturday, but did not schedule a time. I am truly sorry for being delinquent in noticing until now.

It has been said that clutter can cause anxiety and stress. This is definitely true for myself. When my surroundings become too chaotic  and cluttered I cannot concentrate. I do not know where to start on projects, and I feel claustrophobic. Once I am able to rid my surrounds of the clutter I can finally function.

There are many statistics that Americans accumulate the most stuff throughout life. We are a consumer society. "Keeping up with the Joneses" is a very common mindset. We have to have the newest items while still holding on the older items. We have big houses with separate areas devoted for storage, but need extra storage in garages and sheds. Then there is a whole business just for storing stuff that cannot fit into those places. It is amazing that the storage business profits $30 billion annually. Sparefoot

Clutter does not start out horribly.  It grows when people are not paying attention. First there are a few books on a table. Then a notebook, unopened mail, a few print outs, some receipts, grocery lists, and instruction manuals are slowly added throughout the month. The more that is idly added to the pile creates clutter. Telling yourself "I will deal with that later" does nothing for the problem. And then all of a sudden. The pile is huge and now takes at least an hour to sort and act upon.

That hour was wasted! That hour could have been used to read a book, take a walk, enjoy time with your family, or go out with friends. However, that time was spend inspecting items individually and deciding if they are to be trashed, shredded, put away, or given to others.


Decluttering tips:
Clothes
 • Donate clothes that no longer fit or have not been worn in over 9 months. There is no point in storing clothes you cannot wear or do not like.

Old pieces
 • Old odds and ends should be gotten rid of. Mysterious electronic cords, old pens, parts of toys, etc. Keeping items for later use is pointless. They will collect in drawers, storage bins, and shelves.
 • Junk drawers are just hidden pockets of clutter. If the items do not have a specific place, get rid of that them.

Old paperwork
 • Paperwork is the #1 number cause of clutter for several  of my extended family members. Keep bills for 6 month and installment invoices until the purchase is paid off. 
 • Keeping instruction manuals is useless. Equipment information and directions can be found online.
 • Old notebooks should be combined or recycled completely. There is no point in keeping scribbles that you are not going to be read again.

Old formats
 • DVDs and CDs are obsolete. I would rather stream my entertainment needs than have bookcases full of discs.

Duplicates
 • I do not understand why some people have more than one planner or calendar. No one can effectively plan anything if they have to consult several schedules.
 • Owning duplicate items for in-case moments is useless. One can run to a store and pick up anything at anytime. If you do not want to leave the house, many websites have express shipping or overnight delivery options.

Craft supplies
 • Nothing can get out of hand faster than crafting supplies. Hoarding items for maybe crafts is a waste of space and money. I only buy items for a craft I am currently working on. Having too much stuff can cause items to get "lost". Those items will of course resurface when another is bought.

Brain clutter
 • Your brain can be cluttered as well. This can cause procrastinate, feelings of being overwhelmed, or trying to over multitask. I like to keep myself on task and focused with goal/to-do lists. I know what needs to be done immediately. I know what steps are needed to work toward bigger goals.
 • Also clear out e-mails. Then you know exactly what needs your attention. 


There are of course several ideas, steps, or programs on ways to declutter. I would not be able to follow the minimalist movement. But minimizing the clutter is a must for me.

image from: pixabay

Sunday, October 14, 2018

Perfectionism


I am going to start by saying that nobody is perfect. One could work hard and achieve prefect test grades, take an awesome picture, or make the best decorations. But no one is completely perfect. Your favorite blogger, the neighbor with the immaculate lawn, the popular PTA mom, your boss, or your in-laws are not perfect. It only seems that they are prefect, because people only show what they want others to see.  

Perfectionism is a very negative habit. It can cause burnout and a slew of psychological issues including anxiety, feelings of inadequacies, and depression. Nothing should be more important than caring for yourself. Otherwise life becomes a chore rather than a journey. You should be motivated to improve yourself not obsess about everything. Perfectionism can make someone obsess over the tiniest details or procrastinate for fear of making mistakes. Either way very little gets accomplished.

While in school, I used to experience extreme shame and self-loathing if I only got an 90 on a test. Sometimes I would be upset for days because I wasn't smart enough to get an A+. Now looking back, it didn't matter. I passed. That was all that mattered. I have learned that in general, unless you are first it doesn't matter as long as you pass. I let go of the anxiety, stress, fatigue, and burnout that comes with trying to achieve perfection. I still try my hardest and strive for excellence, but I do not let a task become all consuming. There was a great sense of relief when I finally accepted that I did my best and that was all I could do.


So when you feel like you are failing, you are only human. There is only so much you can do in a day. And the sayings that "You have the same 24 hours as whatever celebrities" do not help anyone. Celebrities have personal assistants, agents, accountants, make-up artists, stylists, nannies, housekeepers, fitness trainers, and chefs. There is no way they would be able to accomplish all they do without a team. The only comparative competition you should have is with yourself.

Let the unrealistic expectation of perfectionism go and enjoy yourself more.
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Sunday, October 7, 2018

10 Autumn Must Haves


I am so delighted that summer is over. I am not a hot weather person in the least. Autumn happens to be one of my favorite seasons. The cool temperatures, changing foliage, and of course my second favorite holiday Halloween.

This is the season to dress warmly and stylishly. Play with layers, wear snug footwear, and comfortably wear down hairstyles. There are certain items that are needed in the autumn wardrobe. My fashion style is rather preppy, so my autumn must haves are:

1. Booties
 • Cute ankle height boots. They work well with most outfits. Shoes: TOMS Leila Booties
2. Sweaters
 • Cooler temperatures require warmer clothing options. Cable sweater are a must in the autumn wardrobe. Clothing: Polo Ralph Lauren Cable Knit Sweater
3. Riding boots
 • Tall straight boots. Very comfortable, warm, and fashionable. Shoes: Sam Edelman Penny Riding Boots
4. Wellingtons
 • Tall colored rain boots are so cute. These are both functional and fashionable. I love to wear a vibrate pair of wellingtons with a neutral outfit to add a cute pop of color. Shoes: Hunter Wellingtons
5. Peacoat
 •  This is one of my favorite style of coats. The row of buttons. The fitted back with with a bottom flair. Outer wear: Burberry Peacoat

6. Vest
 • Another Autumn wardrobe must is the vest. Prefect for the cooling weather. And they pair well with cable sweaters, and duck boots. Clothing: J.Crew Excursion Vest
7. Capes
 • Prefect for days when it's not quite cold enough for a full coat. Wonderfully fashionable. I love the feminine silhouette they produce. Outer wear: Wool Checkered Cape
8. Duck boots
 • Prefect for cold rainy or snowy days. They pair well with skinny jeans. Shoes: L.L. Bean Duck Boots
9. Cute scarf
 • As the weather gets colder a scarf is a must. Bows and oversized scarves are my favorites. Accessories: Bernat Bow Scarf

10. Umbrella
 • Planning accessories is important. Nothing is cuter than a patterned umbrella or one that matches your coat or wellingtons. Accessory: Burberry Check Walking Umbrella
Do not let the change in the season cause your blues. This is the best time of year to show off your stylish. Grab a cup of hot chocolate, go shopping, and enjoy autumn to the fullest.


image from: pixabey

Sunday, September 30, 2018

A purse by any other name



A lady must have the perfect accessories. One of her most important will be her purse. Purses serve both fashion and function purposes. These can tie an outfit together or destroy the aesthetic look. Purse should complement an outfit. They are supposed to either match a color scheme or add to the pop of color. I prefer to have my purses be a neutral color so that I can use the same one for multiple outfits. I find that multiple purses cause clutter or waste of closet space. I would rather have a large clothing collection than multiple purses. Out of the general styles there are only four I think best suit the princessly style:

1. Satchel 
• These bag frequently have handles and a strap. I do not like how crossbody bags slice an outfit in half so I never use straps. They come in a variety of shapes. These bag can be made of soft material or structured. I personally find bags that hold their own shape better functionally and aesthetically. Bag: Ted Baker Bowsiia Bow Satchel
2. Tote
• These bags are larger than satchels. They have longer handles for the ability to wear on the shoulder if need be. These bags can also be soft of structured. They frequently do not have a zipper or clasp. The most popular shape is rectangular. Bag: Tory Burch Robinson Tote



3. Mini Duffle 
• Originally a large luggage bag, the mini duffle bag is great for function and fashion. These have two side straps. Duffles have a structured rectangular base with a curved dome top. Bag: Michael Kors Mercer Mini Duffle



4. Clutch 
• A tiny, event bag. Clutches come in a very large variety of shapes. They are generally used for formal occasions and dates because of the minimal space. While beautiful they are not practical for every day, causal wear. Bag: L.K.Bennett Clutch






In addition to styles and colors. I find purses with bows and hearts absolutely adorable. It was very disappointing several years ago when chains became a common accent. I also prefer purses that do not have large logos. Some of my favorite brands include kate spade, tory burch, michael kors, and prada. However, I refuse to buy tacky, logo oriented designs. My one weakness is the L.K. Bennett symbol with the four hearts though.


There are of course several other purse styles. Find the ones what work for you,

image from: pixabay

Sunday, September 23, 2018

Happiness


Happiness, one of the world's more coveted goals. A subjective feeling that people will do anything to obtain. A trophy that always seems just out of reach. Or once achieved, it tries to escape like a frightened bird. 

In the past I was notorious for achieving happiness from completing a goal and then letting the feeling fizzle out. I would lose momentum and this would discourage me from achieving other goals. Over time I had developed some tricks or ideas on how to break this cycle. Below is what helped me. Hopefully one or two may help you.

1. You cannot achieve something from nothing.
• Happiness does not just happen. One cannot do nothing and just expect to be happy. I need to have a clear set of goals I want to work on. Achieving tasks on a To Do list gives me a great sense of accomplishment.  This year I have started identifying my long term goals and then separating them into smaller monthly tasks. Then I get the satisfaction of completing something each month that will build into the future I want.

2. Always change focus.
• Once happiness is obtained, what then? If I do not use the motivation from one accomplishment to drive me to work on the next task then my happiness wanes. I will fall into a rut and then it takes more time and effort to get back on track. I find that I can have small lulls in time, but I generally need to be working on something.

3. Material objects bring empty happiness.
• From years of dressing in Lolita fashion I have learned that buying a "dream dress" or highly sot after accessory only bring empty happiness. I would save up, stalk websites for release dates, and hunt through several auctions for particular items. Once they were finally in my possession, they would lose the magic I imagined it would bring me. I would wear the items once or twice and then it became just another piece in my wardrobe. I would then find a new dream item I just had to have. Stuff is not the answer to happiness. There is no real sense of accomplishment only bragging rights.

4. Fake it until you make it.
• When I find myself in a rut the only way to get out is going through the motions. Do the activities I know I usually love although they feel tedious at the time. Also getting up and moving helps. Exercise, meeting with friends, or just sitting on the porch for fresh air makes a big difference in my mood. Eventually the fake feelings turn into real happiness.

5. Don't be afraid to reach out.
• If I ever feel really down I reach out to someone. Family. Friends. Just sitting down and ranting can be cathartic. Everyone needs to vent from one time to another. If you every experience severe emotional turmoil, depression, and hopelessness please reach out to a professional. Counselors, social workers, groups, and physicians are there to connect and help you.

6. Be appreciative.
• Look around and actually see all that you have. Be thankful. Yes, no matter where you are in life there will always be people that have something better. But there will also be people that have it worse. Not that you should be comparing yourself to others. But you should appreciative that you have a bed to sleep in, clothes to wear, food to eat, and some sort of access to internet, otherwise you would not be unable to read this. If life's basic needs are met, then it should bring some sort of happiness.

7. Treat yourself.
• Take time to treat or pamper yourself. No one can be happy if they feel run down or neglected. Sometimes a good nap, a manicure, or a delicious treat can be motivating. Besides humans are hardwired to want to work after receiving a reward. I like to reward myself after completing extremely difficult tasks. It adds to my happiness and gives an extra little boost when starting on the next task. 


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Sunday, September 16, 2018

Part one: Wightloss


Part one of getting back to myself is to deal with the years of neglect I had inflicted by abusing food. I completely admit that I am an idle and stress eater. When I was bored or in times of chaos/uncertainty I would munch on anything and everything. And of course the unhealthiest of snacks were my preference. This caused my weight to sky rocket. I would then loathe the way I looked and would eat my feelings. I thought why not eat more junk, I looked horrible anyway. The weight gain would cause me additional stress. And then I would eat to deal with that stress. It was a horrible cycle. One that I had been repeating since middle school.

June of this year I decided to finally put an end to this cycle of abuse. Yes, abuse is a hard word. But I feel that is what I was doing to myself. There was no reason to eat the way I had been. I was misusing food. Food is meant to nourish the body, give energy, and to be an occasional treat. I had been using food to keep myself occupied or as a distraction from a problem. Not any more. I was determined to treat food and by body the way they deserved. 

So far I have lost 28lbs. There are still so many more pounds to go, but I am celebrating every victory. I refuse to let boredom or stress drive me to overeat anymore. I also refuse to let my weight dictate how I feel about myself. I am not the number on the scale. I am not just made of rolls and cellulite. I am beautiful. I am loved. I have come to love myself and I am happy. I am a work in progress. I have concurred this vice and I am making my way back to myself. 

Nothing shows bravery like an after workout picture. Hair disheveled, shiny face, not posed, and oversized shirt. This shirt used to fit tightly. I have donated the larger size clothing that no longer fit. But I like to keep this to see how far I have come. Never again will I fit that size. Never again.




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Sunday, September 9, 2018

Starting anew


Life is a journey. When I think of life, the age old tale of a path comes to mind. The path may have a few bumps, a loose stone, or upturned root. However the path is rather stable. The forest that the path winds through is dark and chaotic.  Once in the forest it is very easy to get lost. Staying on the path is easier than getting back on it. But the path isn't always well-defined and from time to time one might lose their way. But through determination and hard work, one can find their way back. 

Until recently I was lost in the forest. I don't know exactly when I lost my way. The last four years have been rather unsteady. I had no time or motivation to participate in things I used to love. I loved to research and wear girly fashions every day. I would arrange and attend meet-ups. I exercised and studied languages. But then one day none of that mattered anymore. And before I could pick myself back up, life kept me occupied. My family moved several times.  I became a work-a-holic. I moved to a different state to be with my then fiancĂ©. He and I got married and expanded our family with two adorable little boys. Then last year, I started a new career and we bought our first house. Life has finally calmed down. And I am ready to get back to my path.

I feel like I have finally awoken from a dream. I am done with surviving day-to-day. I am pleased with my accomplishments from the last ten years, but I am ready to change my focus back to me. I am breaking the cycle of neglect and returning to the things I enjoy and love. Recipes, fashion, travel, blogging, and above all living princessly. So join me on the journey back to myself. Hopefully you will be motivated to try something new, improve a skill, or get back to your own path as well.

You only get one life. Be happy and live it to the fullest!




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