Sunday, October 14, 2018


I am going to start by saying that nobody is perfect. One could work hard and achieve prefect test grades, take an awesome picture, or make the best decorations. But no one is completely perfect. Your favorite blogger, the neighbor with the immaculate lawn, the popular PTA mom, your boss, or your in-laws are not perfect. It only seems that they are prefect, because people only show what they want others to see.  

Perfectionism is a very negative habit. It can cause burnout and a slew of psychological issues including anxiety, feelings of inadequacies, and depression. Nothing should be more important than caring for yourself. Otherwise life becomes a chore rather than a journey. You should be motivated to improve yourself not obsess about everything. Perfectionism can make someone obsess over the tiniest details or procrastinate for fear of making mistakes. Either way very little gets accomplished.

While in school, I used to experience extreme shame and self-loathing if I only got an 90 on a test. Sometimes I would be upset for days because I wasn't smart enough to get an A+. Now looking back, it didn't matter. I passed. That was all that mattered. I have learned that in general, unless you are first it doesn't matter as long as you pass. I let go of the anxiety, stress, fatigue, and burnout that comes with trying to achieve perfection. I still try my hardest and strive for excellence, but I do not let a task become all consuming. There was a great sense of relief when I finally accepted that I did my best and that was all I could do.

So when you feel like you are failing, you are only human. There is only so much you can do in a day. And the sayings that "You have the same 24 hours as whatever celebrities" do not help anyone. Celebrities have personal assistants, agents, accountants, make-up artists, stylists, nannies, housekeepers, fitness trainers, and chefs. There is no way they would be able to accomplish all they do without a team. The only comparative competition you should have is with yourself.

Let the unrealistic expectation of perfectionism go and enjoy yourself more.
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